I don want children – should I tell the woman I am dating?
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I don want children – should I tell the woman I am dating?

July 25, 2014     Published Time : 22:49:49

I don't want to have kids but am worried that this will mean I won't find anyone to settle down with. 

The Guardian, Friday 25 July 2014 

Picture - Starting a new relationship (posed by models) … 'I have little or no paternal instict'. Photograph Alamy

I am a 25-year-old man. I recently ended a long-term relationship because having kids didn't figure into my lifeplan (I had been ambivalent earlier). There are a number of reasons, the most prominent being that I just don't feel like doing so – I have little or no paternal instinct. But I am afraid that I will not find anyone to marry and settle down with.

I will have to bring up the issue early on in a new relationship because in the country that I live, India, it is almost always a "given" that once you are married, you will have kids. When do I tell this girl that I just started dating that I'm not into having kids? I don't want things to have gone too far.

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Source - Private lives, Guardian. http//www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jul/25/i-dont-want-to-have-kids
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